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4 Conversations Every Overwhelmed Working Parent...

4 Conversations Every Overwhelmed Working Parent Should Have

By Anja van den Berg Working parents struggle with the feeling that they are either letting down their family or not meeting their career goals. It can be hard to strike the right balance. It’s important to negotiate boundaries in an intentional way, says Joseph Grenny, a social scientist for  … Read more

Coconut and pineapple lemonade

Coconut and pineapple lemonade

By Lea Brink Cool and refreshing for Spring. You will need: 1 pineapple, cut into pieces 4 cups boiling water 2 tablespoons castor sugar 175ml lemon juice 400ml coconut milk 100g blue berries 1 tablespoon chopped mint leaves Fry the pineapple pieces for approximately five minutes. Add the castor sugar  … Read more

Teach your children safety in and...

Teach your children safety in and around the house

By Melodie Veldhuizen For your own peace of mind and your children’s safety it is essential for you to make them aware of safety and how to handle emergency situations from a young age. The most important rules Emergency numbers, contact details and self-identification Children of all ages must know  … Read more

Spanish Churros with chocolate-cinnamon cream

Spanish Churros with chocolate-cinnamon cream

By Lea Brink An alternative dessert with some unique flavours. You will need: 3 tablespoons sugar ½ teaspoon salt 2 tablespoons sunflower oil 250 ml cake flour ½ teaspoon vanilla essence Sugar: 1 cup sugar 2 teaspoons cinnamon Oil for deep-frying Chocolate cream sauce: 100g dark chocolate 250 ml cream  … Read more

Pan-fried chicken with thyme cream sauce

Pan-fried chicken with thyme cream sauce

By Lea Brink Tasty mid-week chicken to enjoy with your family. You will need: 6 chicken breasts, with skin intact 8 sprigs of thyme 250 ml fresh cream 1 tablespoon coriander 1 chopped onion 4 chopped cloves of garlic ½ cup chopped olives Coarse salt and pepper Heat the oven  … Read more

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4 Conversations Every Overwhelmed Working Parent Should Have

By Anja van den Berg Working parents struggle with the feeling that they are either letting down their family or not meeting their career goals. It can be hard to strike the right balance. It’s important to negotiate boundaries in an intentional way, says Joseph Grenny, a social scientist for business performance. If you are a parent looking to establish and sustain a healthier balance – for yourself, your children and even your organisation – there are four specific types of conversations you need to have.  Grenny and his research associates recommend these exchanges: A conversation with yourself The first ... Lees meer.

Teach your children safety in and around the house

By Melodie Veldhuizen For your own peace of mind and your children’s safety it is essential for you to make them aware of safety and how to handle emergency situations from a young age. The most important rules Emergency numbers, contact details and self-identification Children of all ages must know how to use a telephone and where to get help in an emergency. Let them memorise important numbers. If they can read, display emergency numbers close to the telephone where they can easily find them in an emergency. Load important and emergency numbers on the housephone and on everybody’s cell ... Lees meer.

Nurture your child’s sense of wonderment

By Melodie Veldhuizen Children are born with a sense of wonderment. We are innocent and inquisitive and are fascinated by the tiniest thing in nature, we see its uniqueness and ask questions. Unfortunately some children’s sense of wonderment wilts early in their lives, mostly because they do not get out into nature nearly enough. To prevent this, parents (and other adults) can nurse this wonderment and make it bloom. This may be a huge challenge in our hurried and sophisticated society, it doesn’t take much effort. How can you boost your children’s sense of wonderment?  Time in nature. Make opportunities ... Lees meer.

Teach children empathy in a selfie world

By Marli Naidoo All of us have taken selfies. It’s fun to, without the help of an outsider, be able to take pictures of you and your friends. Some children however take an endless amount of selfies, which they then place on social media, and wait for the “likes” to pour in. The selfie craze is only one of the consequences of a modern tendency to be self-absorbed. In the past 18 years a total cultural shift has taken place to hyper-individualism. We focus increasingly on ourselves, and are inclined to be highly competitive. Empathic behaviour has declined by 40%, ... Lees meer.

How working parents can manage the demands of school-age kids

By Anja van den Berg For working parents with school-age children, the task list is endless.  Demands are high, and juggling responsibilities on both sides of the fence can create significant practical challenges for any family. You’re committed to your job; however, you’re also going to spend a minimum of 13 years invested in the critical role of stewarding your child’s education. But here’s the good news: There are effective ways to manage the overwhelming demands of drop-off, homework and parent-teacher conferences while still delivering and succeeding at work. These simple, specific techniques will put any working parent of school-age kids on ... Lees meer.


Working Parents, Here’s How To Set Your Relationship Up For Success

By Anja van den Berg The demands of both work and parenting are rising. According to the World Bank, women now constitute 40% to 50% of the workforce in many countries around the world, meaning work outside the home is impacting men and women more equally. The Pew Research Centre has found that dads now see parenting as being just as central to their identities as moms do, and households with kids are now 66% dual-income, versus 49% in 1970. It is no surprise, given these time commitments, that 50% to 60% of parents find work-life balance difficult. Research pair ... Lees meer.

Who comes first: Husband or children?

By Marli Naidoo Perhaps you’re one of those moms who say that their children come before their husbands on the priority list because they did not ask to be here, cannot fend for themselves, and the husband is old enough to take care of himself. However, is this attitude the best for your children and your marriage? It has been found that conjugal bliss dims after the birth of children. This decline is 42% higher in our generation than in the previous one. This happiness and satisfaction decline even more with the birth of every subsequent child. This does not ... Lees meer.

Please talk to me, honey!

By Karen van der Berg If there is one thing women want the most, it is for their husbands to talk about their emotions. Most men struggle to talk about their emotions or “deeper” stuff such as relationships. The good news is, you can teach your husband to do so. This is according to Raymond Fourie, a marriage counsellor in Bellville. Most people possess an amazing ability to grow and change. Your husband does not find it as easy as you do to talk about matters of the heart, because as a child he received messages to suppress his experiences ... Lees meer.

When is divorce the best option?

By Anja van den Berg Divorce is not something to be taken lightly. The emotional and financial fallout from ending a marriage can be tremendous and traumatic for all involved. “The common conclusion to all studies on prevention of relationship breakdown and the causes of divorce is that a constellation of factors, not a single cause, is normally responsible for the breakdown of a marriage relationship,” says Bertus Preller, family law and divorce lawyer at Bertus Preller & Associates Inc. in Cape Town. Since relationships are dynamic and family circumstances alter throughout the course of the marriage (for example, the ... Lees meer.

The pros and cons of online dating

By Nico Strydom In the digital era more and more people meet online and like everything else, it has its pros and cons. Technology makes it easier for single people to meet new friends online and even to find their life partners. There are thousands of dating websites that provide for the different needs of people who decide to date online. Technology, however, can be both an obstacle and an aid to romance. Once you’ve taken the first step towards creating an online profile, there are several things to keep in mind: Do not create a misleading profile Give a ... Lees meer.


Learn to understand your dog

By Nico Strydom Dogs use their bodies and expressions to communicate their feelings. By learning your dog’s body language you will know when it feels sad, happy, threatened or bad-tempered. Dogs use their whole body to show how they feel in a particular situation. They will bark, whine or growl and use facial expressions and their ears, lips, noses, tails and bodies, and it is therefore important to know what the different expressions and habits mean. It is, however, important to take everything together as well as the situation in which the dog finds itself into consideration, otherwise you may ... Lees meer.

Yes, your dog can also grieve

By Melodie Veldhuizen Some animal-behaviour scientists doubt whether dogs can really feel grief when a human parent dies. Experts claim that dogs function on the same intellectual and emotional level as children of four to five years old. They do not understand the finality of death and therefore they expect the deceased person to come back. And yet, from the behaviour of dogs it is clear that they experience loss when a human parent dies. The intensity with which dogs experience loss and the extent to which they grieve, depend a lot on how close the relationship between the deceased person ... Lees meer.

Seven diseases you could pick up from your pet

Chisanga Mukuka Just like the rest of us, your furry friend is also prone to germs, bacteria and bouts of sickness. And in the same way that you might catch a cold from other people, conditions from pets can sometimes be passed on to their owners. The good news is that most zoonotic diseases (diseases that can be transferred from animals to humans) are quite rare, and those that you could contract are treatable and can be prevented through simple measures. A great start is knowing which infections are most likely to cross over. Familiarise yourself with the following conditions: ... Lees meer.

Help your child to process the death of a pet

Marli Naidoo In many cases the loss of a pet is a child’s first introduction to death. It can therefore leave him sad, but can also fill him with feelings of guilt, fear and confusion. Some children may even resent a friend whose pet is still alive. It therefore is our duty to help our children through this difficult time. A toddler will probably not yet understand the concept of death. Explain to him that his pet is dead and won’t return, but that it definitely is not his fault. Four- to six-year-olds are inclined to see death as a ... Lees meer.

Having a dog in a complex

We all love our pets but it’s not always easy to live the communal life with an animal, especially a dog. If you’re planning on moving to a complex and have a dog, or live in one and want to get a dog, there are some things you need to consider. Firstly, is the complex pet-friendly? Some people move to a complex because they don’t want neighbours with pets, so make sure you can have a dog before you move in or buy one. Secondly, do you have the right kind of dog for complex living? Remember that an animal ... Lees meer.


Teach your children safety in and around the house

By Melodie Veldhuizen For your own peace of mind and your children’s safety it is essential for you to make them aware of safety and how to handle emergency situations from a young age. The most important rules Emergency numbers, contact details and self-identification Children of all ages must know how to use a telephone and where to get help in an emergency. Let them memorise important numbers. If they can read, display emergency numbers close to the telephone where they can easily find them in an emergency. Load important and emergency numbers on the housephone and on everybody’s cell ... Lees meer.

What to do and not to do if you are raped

By Nico Strydom Rape victims are usually too shocked or afraid to act in the moments immediately after the event. However, there are a few steps you can take immediately to ensure your own safety and to help apprehending and prosecuting the rapist as quickly as possible. Make sure you are safe If you have been raped, you should try to get to a safe place as quickly as possible. Immediately tell somebody what has happened Contact somebody as soon as you have reached a safe place. You can contact a family member or friend or go to the nearest ... Lees meer.

Family murders: Who and why

By Dr. Eugene Brink Henri van Breda was recently found guilty and sentenced to three life terms in prison for the murder of his father, brother and mother at the De Zalze luxury estate in Stellenbosch in 2015. It was one of the most sensational trials and family murders in the history of South Africa and garnered intense media attention. It seemed completely senseless and unusual for someone from such an esteemed, stable and well-to-do family to murder them in such an abhorrent manner. This perhaps explains why the case drew the amount of attention and scrutiny it did. Their ... Lees meer.

Safe holiday

By Marli Naidoo After another quarter’s hard work some families look forward to a bit of winter holiday. Time to rest, to forget about work and school stress, and to muster strength for the second half of the year. A holiday is a time for enjoying yourself and shrugging off all stress. It is therefore important to have a safe holiday and to try and avoid incidents that could cause unnecessary pressure. Plan ahead. Take along only the necessary credit cards, and don’t walk around with a lot of cash. Plan your route, even if you have GPS. Choose the ... Lees meer.

At what age should my learn child how to swim?

By Nico Strydom Drowning is one of the main causes of unnatural deaths among young children in South Africa. “The sad part is that almost all the deaths could possibly have been avoided through proper supervision over children who could not swim, by informing children about the dangers of water, and by placing fences around and netting over swimming pools,” says Dr James Nutt, general practitioner at Intercare Glenfair. According to Nutt children can suffer permanent brain damage within minutes when oxygen is cut off. “Children can even drown in a basin or a small fishpond with a little bit ... Lees meer.


How to earmark microvacations to offset your stringent work schedule

By Anja van den Berg While it’s true that holidays away can be refreshing, they can also take a lot of time, energy and money. Reflecting on the pressures and realities of the modern world of work, Elizabeth Grace Saunders offers an alternative way to think about holidays.  Saunders is a time management coach and author of How to Invest Your Time Like Money and Divine Time Management. “A lot of people feel exhausted just thinking about planning a vacation – not just navigating personal commitments and school breaks but deciding how to delegate major projects or put work on ... Lees meer.

Safe holiday

By Marli Naidoo After another quarter’s hard work some families look forward to a bit of winter holiday. Time to rest, to forget about work and school stress, and to muster strength for the second half of the year. A holiday is a time for enjoying yourself and shrugging off all stress. It is therefore important to have a safe holiday and to try and avoid incidents that could cause unnecessary pressure. Plan ahead. Take along only the necessary credit cards, and don’t walk around with a lot of cash. Plan your route, even if you have GPS. Choose the ... Lees meer.

Staying safe on a long journey

By Nico Strydom Many people go on long journeys during the December holidays to go and relax at various places across the country. How can you ensure your safety on the open road? Ian Cameron, AfriForum’s Head of Community Safety, says every person travelling during this season has a responsibility to be safe towards himself or herself as well as other travellers. Cameron gives the following tips: Make sure that your vehicle is roadworthy and does not endanger you or other road users. Make sure that you get enough sleep and are rested before you start your journey. Schedule enough ... Lees meer.

Secure your house for the holidays

By Nico Strydom The December holidays have arrived at last, which means that many people are taking a break. However, it usually also means increased criminal activity, so make sure that your house is secure while you are on holiday. Unfortunately you can’t take all your belongings on holiday with you, but you can take certain precautions to try and make sure that your house is secure while you’re away from home. According to Virseker criminals go into overdrive from October to December and incidents of housebreaking escalate dramatically. Virseker offers the following security hints for the protection of your ... Lees meer.

Recipe: Quick ʼn Easy Christmas muffins

Lea Brink These fruit muffins are quick to make and to enjoy with Christmas guests. You will need: ½ cup dates, pitted 1 cup prunes, pitted ¾ cup figs 1 cup currants 1 ¼ cups sultanas 1 cup dry white wine 1 cup brandy 3 cups flour 1 teaspoon cinnamon ½ teaspoon nutmeg 1 cup butter at room temperature 4 eggs, beaten 1 teaspoon vanilla essence Chop all the fruit finely, add the sultanas and currants. Add the wine and brandy and stir. Cover with a cloth and leave to stand for approximately two days. Stir through at least twice ... Lees meer.


Coconut and pineapple lemonade

By Lea Brink Cool and refreshing for Spring. You will need: 1 pineapple, cut into pieces 4 cups boiling water 2 tablespoons castor sugar 175ml lemon juice 400ml coconut milk 100g blue berries 1 tablespoon chopped mint leaves Fry the pineapple pieces for approximately five minutes. Add the castor sugar to the boiling water and stir until all the sugar has dissolved. Pour the cooled sugar water and pineapple pieces into a food processer together with the coconut milk, lemon juice, blue berries and mint leaves. Blend thoroughly until the mixture has a smooth, runny appearance. Press the pineapple mixture ... Lees meer.

Spanish Churros with chocolate-cinnamon cream

By Lea Brink An alternative dessert with some unique flavours. You will need: 3 tablespoons sugar ½ teaspoon salt 2 tablespoons sunflower oil 250 ml cake flour ½ teaspoon vanilla essence Sugar: 1 cup sugar 2 teaspoons cinnamon Oil for deep-frying Chocolate cream sauce: 100g dark chocolate 250 ml cream cheese ¾ cup sugar ¼ teaspoon cinnamon 80g finely chopped white chocolate Boil the water, sugar, salt and sunflower oil together in a saucepan at low heat. Stir in the cake flour and vanilla essence as soon as the sugar mixture starts to bubble. Stir well until the dough forms ... Lees meer.

Pan-fried chicken with thyme cream sauce

By Lea Brink Tasty mid-week chicken to enjoy with your family. You will need: 6 chicken breasts, with skin intact 8 sprigs of thyme 250 ml fresh cream 1 tablespoon coriander 1 chopped onion 4 chopped cloves of garlic ½ cup chopped olives Coarse salt and pepper Heat the oven to 180°C. Place the chicken pieces in an oven pan with a steel handle and lid. Fry the chicken pieces in a bit of oil until the skin turns golden brown. Remove the pan from the stove. Add the cream, sprigs of thyme, olives, coriander, onion, cloves of garlic, and ... Lees meer.

Fig and Brie cheese toast fried in butter

By Lea Brink Comfort food at its best. You will need: 4 thick slices home-baked white bread 1 chopped Brie cheese triangle 1 chopped onion 1 bottle dark fig jam 1 teaspoon grated ginger 1 cup grated cheese Salt and pepper to taste 150g soft butter Fry the onion until done and add salt and pepper. Heat 100g soft butter in a pan on low heat until it melts. Spread one side of the bread slices with butter and place in the pan with the buttered side face down. Sprinkle some of the grated cheese on the slice of bread. ... Lees meer.

Pecan nut chicken and mango salad

By Lea Brink A fresh and healthy salad for Spring. You will need: 500g chicken breasts, cut into strips 250g finely chopped pecan nuts 150g rocket leaves 80g young spinach leaves 2 mangoes, diced ½ cup olive oil ½ cup coriander leaves ¼ cup honey 2 teaspoons full-grain mustard 2 tablespoons luke-warm water 1 tablespoon lemon juice ½ chopped cucumber 1 chopped avocado pear ¼ chopped red onion Coarse salt Fry the chicken strips in a bit of olive oil until done. Set aside to cool. Place the coriander leaves, half of the mango pieces and the olive oil in ... Lees meer.


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