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Recipe: Salty caramel dessert

Recipe: Salty caramel dessert

By Lea Brink This dessert is great enjoyed with guests. So easy to prepare and such a pleasure to eat. Distribute the batter between four to eight bowls, depending on the size of the bowls. You will need: 200 g finely chopped Nuttikrust biscuits Filling: 450 g cream cheese 1  … Read more

How to help chidren who are...

How to help chidren who are experiencing trauma

By Nico Strydom When children are going through trauma, it has a direct impact on their emotional and physical reactions. Gaelene Risk, a trauma counsellor at The Trauma Coach, says children often have difficulty identifying, expressing and managing their emotions. “Some children have a limited vocabulary and cannot express verbally  … Read more

Recipe: Creamy autumn cabbage salad

Recipe: Creamy autumn cabbage salad

By Lea Brink Enjoy this salad with a juicy rump steak. You will need: 1 red cabbage, cut into thin strips 200 g goat milk cheese, diced 2 Granny Smith apples, diced 200 g coarsely chopped pecan nuts 100 g dried red bush berries 50 g raisins ½ chopped red  … Read more

Recipe: Chicken pot pie

Recipe: Chicken pot pie

By Lea Brink Serve each of your guests with their own pie or freeze for later. You will need: 4 to 6 chicken breast fillets, cut into smaller portions 1 packet mushroom soup 400 g chopped white mushrooms 500 g frozen peas, corn and diced carrots 1 chopped onion 2  … Read more

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Help your children through the trauma of moving house

By Melodie Veldhuizen Moving house can be stressful and traumatic for children, even if the reasons are positive. Children thrive on familiarity and a set routine. The following are a few guidelines to make it easier for the children. Tell them early on that you are going to move and  … Read more

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How to help chidren who are experiencing trauma

By Nico Strydom When children are going through trauma, it has a direct impact on their emotional and physical reactions. Gaelene Risk, a trauma counsellor at The Trauma Coach, says children often have difficulty identifying, expressing and managing their emotions. “Some children have a limited vocabulary and cannot express verbally the feelings they are experiencing and the feelings are then perhaps expressed in the form of deeds such as hitting, biting and tantrums.” According to Risk children’s physical aspects can also be affected because trauma affects their developmental and cognitive abilities. “This can be in the form of poor concentration, ... Lees meer.

Help your children through the trauma of moving house

By Melodie Veldhuizen Moving house can be stressful and traumatic for children, even if the reasons are positive. Children thrive on familiarity and a set routine. The following are a few guidelines to make it easier for the children. Tell them early on that you are going to move and why. It will help to prepare them emotionally. Use story books to explain moving to small children. Make a special point of involving the older children in every aspect of the moving process. For instance, let them help with house-hunting by letting them look at all the possible choices on ... Lees meer.

Raise self-reliant children

By Melodie Veldhuizen It always seems easier to do everything for your toddler rather than allowing her to do something for herself or at least try to do it herself. But by teaching her at an early stage to do little tasks herself you will guide her to self-reliance and boost her self-confidence. Experts have some advice on how to make it easier for you and your toddler. Begin by saying to your toddler: “I’m treating you like a baby while you actually can do things big children do”. She is probably going to agree with you and only too ... Lees meer.

Mother’s Day – how to spoil your mom

By Melodie Veldhuizen Just a reminder – Sunday 13 May 2018 is Mother’s Day. Oh, you knew that? Of course, since April you are constantly being reminded thereof by colourful brochures or gifts and ridiculously priced cards that adorn the shop shelves to tempt you. And of course our mothers and grandmothers are important to us and we want to thank them for they do for us and mean to us. Are you planning to surprise your mom like every year in the past? With an extremely expensive Mother’s Day lunch at a restaurant? With cards you cannot afford containing schmaltzy ... Lees meer.

Who comes first: Husband or children?

By Marli Naidoo Perhaps you’re one of those moms who say that their children come before their husbands on the priority list because they did not ask to be here, cannot fend for themselves, and the husband is old enough to take care of himself. However, is this attitude the best for your children and your marriage? It has been found that conjugal bliss dims after the birth of children. This decline is 42% higher in our generation than in the previous one. This happiness and satisfaction decline even more with the birth of every subsequent child. This does not ... Lees meer.


Who comes first: Husband or children?

By Marli Naidoo Perhaps you’re one of those moms who say that their children come before their husbands on the priority list because they did not ask to be here, cannot fend for themselves, and the husband is old enough to take care of himself. However, is this attitude the best for your children and your marriage? It has been found that conjugal bliss dims after the birth of children. This decline is 42% higher in our generation than in the previous one. This happiness and satisfaction decline even more with the birth of every subsequent child. This does not ... Lees meer.

Please talk to me, honey!

By Karen van der Berg If there is one thing women want the most, it is for their husbands to talk about their emotions. Most men struggle to talk about their emotions or “deeper” stuff such as relationships. The good news is, you can teach your husband to do so. This is according to Raymond Fourie, a marriage counsellor in Bellville. Most people possess an amazing ability to grow and change. Your husband does not find it as easy as you do to talk about matters of the heart, because as a child he received messages to suppress his experiences ... Lees meer.

When is divorce the best option?

By Anja van den Berg Divorce is not something to be taken lightly. The emotional and financial fallout from ending a marriage can be tremendous and traumatic for all involved. “The common conclusion to all studies on prevention of relationship breakdown and the causes of divorce is that a constellation of factors, not a single cause, is normally responsible for the breakdown of a marriage relationship,” says Bertus Preller, family law and divorce lawyer at Bertus Preller & Associates Inc. in Cape Town. Since relationships are dynamic and family circumstances alter throughout the course of the marriage (for example, the ... Lees meer.

The pros and cons of online dating

By Nico Strydom In the digital era more and more people meet online and like everything else, it has its pros and cons. Technology makes it easier for single people to meet new friends online and even to find their life partners. There are thousands of dating websites that provide for the different needs of people who decide to date online. Technology, however, can be both an obstacle and an aid to romance. Once you’ve taken the first step towards creating an online profile, there are several things to keep in mind: Do not create a misleading profile Give a ... Lees meer.

Is the first year of a marriage really the bumpiest?

By Nico Strydom The first year of a marriage is often referred to as the honeymoon phase, but also has the reputation of being one of the most difficult years of a marriage. There doesn’t seem to be any really concrete research as to whether this is really the case. In most cases the possibility that it could be one of the worst years of a marriage is ascribed to the fact that marriage comes with various challenges, such as adjustment, expectations, disillusionment and anticlimax. For many couples the honeymoon phase ends after the honeymoon when they find out that ... Lees meer.


Yes, your dog can also grieve

By Melodie Veldhuizen Some animal-behaviour scientists doubt whether dogs can really feel grief when a human parent dies. Experts claim that dogs function on the same intellectual and emotional level as children of four to five years old. They do not understand the finality of death and therefore they expect the deceased person to come back. And yet, from the behaviour of dogs it is clear that they experience loss when a human parent dies. The intensity with which dogs experience loss and the extent to which they grieve, depend a lot on how close the relationship between the deceased person ... Lees meer.

Seven diseases you could pick up from your pet

Chisanga Mukuka Just like the rest of us, your furry friend is also prone to germs, bacteria and bouts of sickness. And in the same way that you might catch a cold from other people, conditions from pets can sometimes be passed on to their owners. The good news is that most zoonotic diseases (diseases that can be transferred from animals to humans) are quite rare, and those that you could contract are treatable and can be prevented through simple measures. A great start is knowing which infections are most likely to cross over. Familiarise yourself with the following conditions: ... Lees meer.

Help your child to process the death of a pet

Marli Naidoo In many cases the loss of a pet is a child’s first introduction to death. It can therefore leave him sad, but can also fill him with feelings of guilt, fear and confusion. Some children may even resent a friend whose pet is still alive. It therefore is our duty to help our children through this difficult time. A toddler will probably not yet understand the concept of death. Explain to him that his pet is dead and won’t return, but that it definitely is not his fault. Four- to six-year-olds are inclined to see death as a ... Lees meer.

Having a dog in a complex

We all love our pets but it’s not always easy to live the communal life with an animal, especially a dog. If you’re planning on moving to a complex and have a dog, or live in one and want to get a dog, there are some things you need to consider. Firstly, is the complex pet-friendly? Some people move to a complex because they don’t want neighbours with pets, so make sure you can have a dog before you move in or buy one. Secondly, do you have the right kind of dog for complex living? Remember that an animal ... Lees meer.

Having a dog in a complex

Bryan Brook We all love our pets but it’s not always easy to live the communal life with an animal, especially a dog. If you’re planning to move to a complex and have a dog, or if you live in one and want to get a dog, there are some things you need to consider. Firstly, make sure the complex is pet-friendly. Some people move to a complex because they don’t want neighbours with pets, so make sure you can have a dog before you move in or buy one. Secondly, make sure that you have the right kind of ... Lees meer.


How to change a tyre by yourself

By Tania du Toit Hopefully this will never happen, but you have to prepare yourself for when it does. Perhaps first-car owners should be required to “pass” a tyre-change test before they are given the car keys. You need a lifting jack, a wheel spanner, a spare wheel at the correct tyre pressure and (initially) the vehicle instruction book. Handy non-essential items include a headlamp with fresh batteries, a rain jacket, a wooden block as a basis for the jack, gloves and anything that can be used as wheel wedges. Do not unexpectedly brake or swerve out the moment you ... Lees meer.

Keep your children safe

By Karen van der Berg Scary messages and videos are posted on Whats App and Facebook on a regular basis to show how easy it is for strangers to start chatting to children and even lure them away from a care-giver. Children are kidnapped world-wide annually and South Africa is no exception. Although parents need not lie awake at night in this regard, it still is advisable to know how to keep your children safe at all times; at home and in public places. Dr Aaron Tabor, an American expert on human trafficking, compiled the following three vitally important tips ... Lees meer.

Do you still welcome your new neighbours

By Tania du Toit The time is long past when we lived in a community where neighbours called one another by their first names and everyone new everyone’s business. Life’s tempo and rapid urbanisation over recent decades might have something to do with it. It has in actual fact become standard practice for neighbours to on the whole be strangers to one another and probably prefer it that way. It so happens that new neighbours move in across the road or next to you. You remember the day you were heartily welcomed by two friendly faces hovering above a freshly ... Lees meer.

Human trafficking – The realities

By Anja van den Berg Trafficking in people is a serious crime and a grave violation of human rights.  Every year, thousands of men, women and children fall into the hands of traffickers, in their own countries and abroad.  The United Nations Office on Drugs and Crime (UNODC) reports that almost every country in the world is affected by trafficking, whether as a country of origin, transit or destination for victims. Sexual exploitation continues to be the most prominent reason behind trafficking in people in South Africa. South Africa remains a primary source, destination, and transit country for human trafficking. ... Lees meer.

Crucial points your teen needs to know about sexting

By Anja van den Berg Sexting among teens is, unfortunately, pretty common. Many parents are shocked to hear how casually teens discuss it.  And, while experts differ on statistics, a 2009 study conducted by Pew Internet & American Life Project confirms sexting is a teen reality that’s here to stay. The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy conducted a survey with 653 teens (ages 13-19) to explore the sexual use of sending or posting sexually suggestive messages or texts.  Their conclusion was that one in five teens admitted to posting sexually explicit pictures online.  Their statistics also show ... Lees meer.


Staying safe on a long journey

By Nico Strydom Many people go on long journeys during the December holidays to go and relax at various places across the country. How can you ensure your safety on the open road? Ian Cameron, AfriForum’s Head of Community Safety, says every person travelling during this season has a responsibility to be safe towards himself or herself as well as other travellers. Cameron gives the following tips: Make sure that your vehicle is roadworthy and does not endanger you or other road users. Make sure that you get enough sleep and are rested before you start your journey. Schedule enough ... Lees meer.

Secure your house for the holidays

By Nico Strydom The December holidays have arrived at last, which means that many people are taking a break. However, it usually also means increased criminal activity, so make sure that your house is secure while you are on holiday. Unfortunately you can’t take all your belongings on holiday with you, but you can take certain precautions to try and make sure that your house is secure while you’re away from home. According to Virseker criminals go into overdrive from October to December and incidents of housebreaking escalate dramatically. Virseker offers the following security hints for the protection of your ... Lees meer.

Recipe: Quick ʼn Easy Christmas muffins

Lea Brink These fruit muffins are quick to make and to enjoy with Christmas guests. You will need: ½ cup dates, pitted 1 cup prunes, pitted ¾ cup figs 1 cup currants 1 ¼ cups sultanas 1 cup dry white wine 1 cup brandy 3 cups flour 1 teaspoon cinnamon ½ teaspoon nutmeg 1 cup butter at room temperature 4 eggs, beaten 1 teaspoon vanilla essence Chop all the fruit finely, add the sultanas and currants. Add the wine and brandy and stir. Cover with a cloth and leave to stand for approximately two days. Stir through at least twice ... Lees meer.

Managing your family during the festive season

Anja van den Berg Many of us will now be spending time with the extended family.  Whether you’re traveling to visit parents or whether they’re coming to stay with you, time spent with family can be filled with blessings — and also lots of stress. “There’s this idea that holiday gatherings with family are supposed to be joyful and stress-free,” says Dr Ken Duckworth, medical director of the National Alliance on Mental Illness. “That’s not the case.  Family relationships are complicated.  But that’s doesn’t mean that the solution is to skip the holidays entirely.” Like it or not, extended family ... Lees meer.

How to survive the long journey with baby, toddler

Melodie Veldhuizen The long summer holidays are around the corner. You can’t wait for that great visit to Granddad and Grandma, or to relax at a holiday resort. But just the thought of the hundreds of kilometres per car with your baby and toddler makes you wonder if the holiday is worth the long, demanding journey. Experts and parents give advice to help you turn the journey into a pleasant experience for the entire family. Make sure that you and the children are safe and comfortable ahead of time. Apart from all the other obvious preventative and safety measures for ... Lees meer.


Recipe: Salty caramel dessert

By Lea Brink This dessert is great enjoyed with guests. So easy to prepare and such a pleasure to eat. Distribute the batter between four to eight bowls, depending on the size of the bowls. You will need: 200 g finely chopped Nuttikrust biscuits Filling: 450 g cream cheese 1 tin Caramel Treat 1 teaspoon vanilla essence ½ teaspoon coarse sea salt ½ cup finely chopped pecan nuts Topping: 250 ml stiffly whipped fresh cream Caramel popcorn Some pecan nuts for decoration Beat the cream cheese and Caramel Treat in an electric mixer until creamy and well mixed. Add the ... Lees meer.

Recipe: Creamy autumn cabbage salad

By Lea Brink Enjoy this salad with a juicy rump steak. You will need: 1 red cabbage, cut into thin strips 200 g goat milk cheese, diced 2 Granny Smith apples, diced 200 g coarsely chopped pecan nuts 100 g dried red bush berries 50 g raisins ½ chopped red onion ½ cup chopped raw beet ½ cup thinly sliced carrots ¾ cup diced butternut 50 g chopped rocket leaves 2 tablespoons sesame seeds Sauce: 50 ml almond or olive oil 100 ml mayonnaise 1 tablespoon coarse full-grain mustard 2 tablespoons condensed milk Fry the butternut in a pan with ... Lees meer.

Recipe: Chicken pot pie

By Lea Brink Serve each of your guests with their own pie or freeze for later. You will need: 4 to 6 chicken breast fillets, cut into smaller portions 1 packet mushroom soup 400 g chopped white mushrooms 500 g frozen peas, corn and diced carrots 1 chopped onion 2 chopped cloves of garlic ½ cup soaked sundried tomatoes 1 tablespoon thyme Salt and pepper to taste ½ teaspoon coriander 800 g puff pastry 1 cup full-cream milk 500 ml boiling water 1 beaten egg A few sprigs of parsley for garnishing Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease four ramekins ... Lees meer.

Recipe: Spud filled with bacon and pecan nuts

By Lea Brink A quick supper and a delicious item for a lunchbox. You will need: 1 large potato 4 fried and finely chopped bacon strips 1 tablespoon coarsely chopped pecan nuts 2 tablespoons sour cream 1 cup grated cheddar cheese ½ avocado pear, diced 100 g white mushrooms 5 chopped olives 5 basil leaves Salt and pepper to taste Preheat the oven to 200°C. Boil the potato until done. Set aside to cool. Brush the potato with salt and oil and cut a star shape into the potato halfway down. Press the sides of the potato so that it ... Lees meer.

Recipe: South African Chilli Con Carne

By Lea Brink An autumn dish that freezes well. I prefer to make a big batch and freeze half. This recipe works very well in a slow-cooker that you can leave for a few hours. I prefer to prepare my chilli con carne in a heavy base skillet pan. You will need: 500 g lean beef mince 300 g pork mince 100 g boerewors cut into rings 1 finely chopped onion 4 finely chopped cloves of garlic 1 finely chopped carrot 100 g frozen mealies 1 chopped green pepper 1 chopped chilli pepper (remove the seeds) 1 tin red kidney ... Lees meer.


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