By Emsie Martin
The guy is jovial and everybody likes him, but behind that mask hides a person who thinks and believes he is the most important person in the world. His people at home, however, do not experience the same jovial, helpful person. Nothing is ever his fault and he never says sorry. It won’t help to talk to people about it because they won’t believe you.
So what is a narcissist?
The general characteristics of a narcissistic personality disorder is an obsession with self-image, power and pomp.
People who has NPD apparently have such a grand idea of their self-worth that they regard themselves as better and more important than others. However, they have a characteristic low self-image and have a problem handling criticism, which regularly makes them want to compensate by belittling other people.
Experts say narcissists are characterised by self-interest and a lack of empathy with others, but to my mind narcissism and emotional abuse are one and the same thing. These people can drain you emotionally. A narcissist wants to be the centre of attention and must be admired in every conversation.
How does one recognise these people?
Dr ST Potgieter, a psychologist from Bellville, says there is a difference between healthy narcissism and pathological narcissism. “Healthy narcissism (self-love) means that you love yourself, but also have love and understanding for your fellow man. With pathological narcissism it is a case of “I love myself and that’s that”.
What do I do?
Being married to a narcissist can lead to loneliness and sadness owing to poor communication, unwillingness to work at the marriage and a lack of respect. Narcissists usually make you withdraw from social activities because loneliness is more bearable than the embarrassment when he insults you in front of others and passes humiliating remarks in front of friends, family and colleagues. Learn to handle these people because they have no insight into their problem and they will not simply change. In their minds they think “How can I apologise if I’m always right?”
How do I handle my narcissistic husband?
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Sources
https://kerkbode.christians.co.za/2019/10/22/help-my-man-is-n-narsis/
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