By Marli Naidoo
One of the excuses that have been worked to death, is that there simply isn’t money for a night out (without the kids, mind you) with your loved one. You will have to quickly change your mind about these excuses when you realise that all you need for having a wonderful time with your partner, is creativity and a good imagination. A cheap or free “date night” could even be more exciting than an expensive dinner at a swanky restaurant.
You do not have to go out to spend time together. After dropping the children at Grandma’s or putting them to bed, the next step is to switch off the telephones, tablets and laptops. Forget about work and social media and focus on each other.
Do a typical sleep-over at your best friend’s place. Watch a movie, eat something nice, play games and laugh a lot. Look for games on the internet such as All about us charades that can help you to focus on each other and get to know each other even better.
A very special way of celebrating your anniversary at home is by making a time capsule. Use the evening to fill a tin with memories, which you can open again at your next anniversary. Write love letters to one another and put them in the capsule (don’t read them). Take photos of your night: of the food, of each other, and a lot of selfies. Print them out and put them in the capsule too. Let each of you place an item in the capsule that reminds you of your partner, as well as a list of goals that you want to achieve together in the next year. Write down what you appreciate and enjoy most about your loved one. Be creative! It’s your capsule and you can decide what will make it extra special for you.
Have a picnic in the garden while you gaze at the stars and dream about the future. One is never too old to dream.
Spoil each other with massages, facials, pedicures and manicures and end it off by joining in a bath by candlelight.
Cook a special dinner together and do an at-home wine-tasting. Pick three wines that you haven’t tried before and decide which one would be best for you. Remember the romantic music.
Should you decide rather to arrange for a babysitter and go out for the evening (or weekend), it still does not have to cost a lot.
Your date night does not have to be at night only. Go for a hike in a nature reserve or sleep over in a tent on a friend’s farm.
Go and do something that you did together when you just started going out. Play mini golf, play snooker, or play darts. Play hide-and-seek in a park, drive crash cars, scratch out your names on a tree trunk. Do things that make you laugh.
Do geocaching together or go horse-riding in the veld.
In the end it does not matter what you do together. The key is to forget about the rest of the world yourself, to focus on your darling and just enjoy each other.
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