Lea Brink Enjoy this tart during the last days of summer. You will need: 1½ cups cake flour 1 teaspoon baking powder ½ teaspoon bicarbonate of soda 2 tablespoons butter ¾ cup gooseberries ¾ cup blueberries 1 cup sugar 2 eggs 1 teaspoon vanilla extract ½ cup Greek yoghurt 1...
By Marli Naidoo Lies can totally destroy relationships. So, when our children lie to us, we take it very seriously and easily feel that we cannot trust them anymore. Children are not born with a system of values. It is something that they have to work out for themselves with time. They know about social rules and are constantly watching the adults to see what they are supposed to do and how they are supposed to negotiate in their world. The need to tell the truth and the ability to understand the concept of lying, are things that children develop ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo We will not give our children stones when they ask for bread. Unfortunately there are parents who do exactly that. Child abuse occurs in all communities and children do not always hate the abuser. In most cases the abuser is somebody known to the child or his family. Child abuse is any interaction or absence of interaction that results in non-accidental damage to the child’s physical condition or development. This includes not only physical damage but also emotional and sexual abuse, as well as neglect. Sexual abuse Sexual abuse takes place when somebody forces or solicits a ... Lees meer.
For working parents with school-age children, this time of year is especially chaotic. Your task list is endless, your stress level high. Besides, a lot of the work and worry seems to be coming from one place: your child’s school. But here’s the good news: There are effective ways to manage the overwhelming demands of drop-off, homework, and parent-teacher conferences while still delivering and succeeding at work. Here’s how to make the system work for you! Plan and bundle volunteer commitments. Even with a very flexible job, it’s unlikely that a working parent can make it to every bake sale, ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin Dyslexia is something often talked about, but a lot of uncertainty about this condition also exists. The term ‘dyslexia’ is a combination of two Greek words, dys and lexis, that mean bad reading. The old-time view is that dyslexia is a physical disturbance in the brain which causes information to be incorrectly processed and interpreted, thereby leading to reading, spelling and writing problems. Dr. ST Potgieter, psychologist in Belville, points out a few aspects regarding dyslexia and how they can affect a child in school. Dyslexia is a learning disability, usually of neurological or biological origin. It ... Lees meer.
Anja van den Berg It's back to school time, and lunchboxes have to be packed. Nutritious food is a critical part of academic development. Contribute to your child's success by packing wholesome snacks that will not only keep them healthy but also help them concentrate. Here’s how you can do it: Water. The body uses water for many functions; dehydration can cause fatigue and headaches. Milk. Milk is packed with calcium and phosphorus – which is beneficial for their growing bones – and provides a healthy dose of protein. If you opt for flavoured milk, choose one with no additives ... Lees meer.
By Wilma Bedford Digital detox is the buzzword among yuppies and the in-thing is to go to expensive breakaway camps to break with smartphone and media addiction to reunite with family and friends. The unfortunate truth is that from a young age our children are attracted to digital online diversion, video games, smartphones and Netflix and then become socially indifferent towards and detached from the family. Detox cell-phone and digitally addicted family members by means of card and board games and puzzles and repair disintegrated family time; it may sound old-fashioned, but do not underestimate the social and educational value ... Lees meer.
By Anja van den Berg For around 30 years, researchers have studied how having children affects a marriage, and the results are conclusive: the relationship between spouses suffers once kids come along. Comparing couples with and without children, researchers found that the rate of the decline in relationship satisfaction is nearly twice as steep for couples who have children than for childless couples. If a pregnancy is unplanned, the parents experience even more significant negative impacts on their relationship. This decrease in marital satisfaction likely leads to a change in general happiness, says Professor Matthew Johnson, Director of the Marriage ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen Everyone knows the saying: “Keeping up with the Joneses’". Let’s just call them ‘our neighbours’. They aren’t such bad people and don’t even know how they are influencing your life, but in your opinion on a professional, personal, academic, family or social level and the display of wealth they are better than you and your family. You long to be like them – just as educated or rich, or to move in elite social circles. There are many reasons why you should rather not try to keep up with them. Some of the negative consequences are: You ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo In the good old days it was very simple. Traditionally the man always paid, no matter who ate what, who chose the restaurant or who arranged the outing. With time, however, this tradition was replaced by personal preference and flexibility. This flexibility can cause a lot of tension when a couple, on their first evening out, have totally different ideas about who is supposed to pay the account. Fortunately there are guidelines that can help to ease the pressure. On the first outing the man must be prepared to pay. Should the lady offer to pay half, ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo When we’re looking for a life partner we think in terms of a best friend. You want to share your life with a person you can tell everything, who will not judge you but will support you. However, if you feel that you should withhold information from this friend, you will probably realise that you are not really best friends. When you are in a serious relationship or marriage, it usually becomes much more complicated role-play than what you would find in even the best friendship. There is money, intimacy, children, value systems and many other factors ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin Summer has arrived, not only for us but also for our pets. Most of us think now is a good time to strip your dog of its abundance of hair, just as you strip your clothes and change into swimwear or shorts. But is it really a good idea to have your wooly bundle’s hair shorn off? Health issues associated with heat are noticeable among brachycephalic (short-nosed) dogs, especially those with long hair. In the South African heat it would really help them to have their hair shorn. Benefits of shaving your dog in summer: • It ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin Most of us have already experienced the extremely hot days of this summer season and you might be thinking it’s a good time to strip you dog of his thick ruff, just as we strip of layers of clothes and walk around in swimsuits and shorts. Your pet is also hot, but first ask your vet if it is the right thing to do. Following are some tips from the SPCA on how to protect your pet against the heat this summer: If possible, keep your pets indoors when it gets too hot. If that is not ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom The arrival of a new baby can turn a household on its head and it could also affect the house pets. Once the new baby has come home, it is accompanied by an overwhelming array of new sounds and smells, and this could upset a dog, especially if it is not used to children. A baby also results in drastic changes to the daily routine, which means that your dog’s schedule could possibly also change. A new baby could also result in a dog getting less attention than before for a while. All this can result in ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom Dogs use their bodies and expressions to communicate their feelings. By learning your dog’s body language you will know when it feels sad, happy, threatened or bad-tempered. Dogs use their whole body to show how they feel in a particular situation. They will bark, whine or growl and use facial expressions and their ears, lips, noses, tails and bodies, and it is therefore important to know what the different expressions and habits mean. It is, however, important to take everything together as well as the situation in which the dog finds itself into consideration, otherwise you may ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen Some animal-behaviour scientists doubt whether dogs can really feel grief when a human parent dies. Experts claim that dogs function on the same intellectual and emotional level as children of four to five years old. They do not understand the finality of death and therefore they expect the deceased person to come back. And yet, from the behaviour of dogs it is clear that they experience loss when a human parent dies. The intensity with which dogs experience loss and the extent to which they grieve, depend a lot on how close the relationship between the deceased person ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom For many women travelling during pregnancy can be a concern as it requires extra planning and precautions. Pregnant women who intend travelling should talk to their doctor ahead of time so that they can be advised as to which inoculations are safe and what precautions they should take for their and their babies’ health. Pregnant women are generally advised to not travel too much or unnecessarily. If, however, there are no complications with regard to the pregnancy, travelling is on the whole safe, but it is advisable not to travel after a pregnancy of 35 weeks. The ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom On the surface toys offer a wonderful way to keep children busy and can even be educational, but there are also toys that could be dangerous. Kirstie Haslam of DSC Attorneys, an attorney’s firm that specialises in personal injuries, says dangerous toys are available online and in shops and can harbour hidden dangers that expose children to injuries and even death. “It is therefore crucial to be vigilant when buying toys.” The American non-governmental organisation World Against Toys Causing Harm (W.A.T.C.H.) recently issued its annual list of dangerous toys. According to Haslam, the report lays emphasis on ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin It is that time of the year again and the National Sea Rescue Institute (NSRI) urges the public to adopt a water safety mind-set around coastal and inland waters. For a safe experience at the beach, choose a beach that has lifeguards on duty and swim between their flags. If you do that, you don’t need to worry about rip currents, or suddenly getting out of your depth. Putting an arm in the air and waving for help will get a rapid response from the lifeguards on duty. Unfortunately, people regularly swim where there are no lifeguards on duty. ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin We all know holidays have their share of injuries, which is why every mom should be prepared for scrapes, cuts, sunburn and bites or stings, bruises and tears. Fortunately, parents have that special instinct to handle their kids’ accidents or small mishaps. From a purple lump the size of an egg on your child’s forehead to a bleeding wound become part of a parent’s life and no longer upset us greatly. With disinfectant, brightly coloured sticking plasters and lots of hugs and kisses, a mom knows she can handle many small mishaps. The secret is to be ... Lees meer.
By Anja van den Berg For most of us the holidays mean spending more time with family and friends, seeing new places or just relaxing somewhere else. However, for criminals this time signals the opportunity to break into homes. Don't let the anticipation of a well-deserved holiday blind you to the risks of leaving your home unprotected. Taking precautions before you leave will keep your home and belongings secure while you're gone so that you won't come back to the horrible reality of a house robbery. Here are a few suggestions: Inform your security company Make sure your alarm is ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Something completely different for the Christmas season. You will need: 110g butter 110g castor sugar 110g golden syrup 225g self-raising flour 2 teaspoons ginger powder 1 teaspoon sugared orange peel, chopped 1 litre vanilla ice-cream Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Grease an oven pan with butter or Spray and Cook and line with baking paper. Heat the butter in a saucepan on low heat. Add the castor sugar and golden syrup. Remove from the heat as soon as the castor sugar has been worked through thoroughly. Set aside to cool. Add the self-raising flour, sugared orange peel and ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink The hot Christmas weather makes this Pavlova one of the biggest hits of the year. You will need: 3 egg-whites 1 cup castor sugar 1 teaspoon cornflour 1 teaspoon white wine vinegar 1 container chocolate ice-cream 250ml fresh cream 250g salted almonds 320g milk chocolate squares 200g fresh strawberries 200g blueberries 100g pomegranate seeds ½ cups fresh mint leaves Chocolate sauce (purchased) Preheat the oven to 140ºC. Line a baking plate with baking paper and spray with Spray and Cook. Beat the egg-whites until stiff, add the castor sugar spoon by spoon. Beat well. Fold in the cornflour ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink A very special coleslaw for Christmas dinner. You will need: 1 red cabbage, cut into thin strips 200g goat’s milk cheese, diced 2 Granny Smith apples, diced 200g coarsely chopped pecan nuts 100g dried red bush berries 50g raisins ½ chopped red onion ½ cup thinly sliced carrot pieces 50g chopped rocket leaves 2 tablespoons sesame seeds Sauce: 50ml almond oil or olive oil 100ml mayonnaise 1 tablespoon coarse full-grain mustard 2 tablespoons condensed milk Combine the red cabbage, goat’s milk cheese, apples, red onion and carrot in a glass bowl and stir well. Add the sesame seeds, ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo Some people get along splendidly with their in-laws, but this is not always the case. For others it sometimes requires a lot of effort to even just be in the same room as their in-laws, However, in these situations it is possible to survive Christmas with your in-laws and even be able to enjoy some moments by applying the following tips: Be willing to be flexible without being controlled by others. This is the season to be thankful and generous, and it will benefit everyone to adopt an attitude of humility. Christmas is not a good time ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Refreshing and deliciously cool for our hot Christmas days. You will need: 1½ bottle Chardonnay of your choice 400ml JC le Roux La Fleurette 400ml Appletizer 1 cup finely crushed strawberries ½ cup finely crushed blueberries 2 sprigs finely chopped rosemary 2 cups finely chopped watermelon ½ cup pomegranate seeds Combine all the ingredients. Stir well. Place in the fridge for a few hours before serving. Serve in a large jug or bowl with lots of ice. Stir frequently so that everyone gets some of the fruit.
Lea Brink These bars freeze well. You will need: Crust: 1½ packets Tennis biscuits ½ cup melted butter Filling: 2 cups sliced strawberries 1½ cups blueberries 1 cup strawberries ½ cup castor sugar 4 teaspoons cornflower ½ cup coconut 1 lemon 160g grated dark chocolate 80g white chocolate Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Line an oven dish with baking paper and grease it well. Break up the Tennis biscuits into fine crumbs. Add the melted butter and mix well. Press the butter-biscuit mixture firmly into the bottom of the oven dish to form a crust. Gently mix the strawberries, blueberries, ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Rich oven dish. You will need: 4 reasonably big pork chops 4 medium potatoes, peeled and quartered Salt and pepper to taste 1 tin pepper cream soup ½ cup milk 1 tablespoon barbeque spice 1½ cups grated cheddar cheese 1 tin mushrooms 1 tablespoon dried thyme 1 tablespoon dried sage Boil the potatoes until done. Drain and place in an oven dish. Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Debone the pork chops. Spread with a generous layer of the barbeque spice. Fry for approximately four to five minutes on both sides. Place the pork chops on top of the ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Delicious and to be enjoyed without feeling guilty. You will need: 2 large, ripe avocado pears ½ cup cocoa powder ½ cup coconut cream ½ cup Canderel sweetener ½ teaspoon vanilla extract A pinch of chilli powder 1 teaspoon whiskey of your choice Peel the avocado pears and remove the pips. Place the avocado pears in a food processor. Add the cocoa powder, coconut cream, Canderel sweetener and vanilla extract. Process the ingredients to a soft and smooth consistency. Gently stir in the chilli powder and whiskey. Divide the mousse into individual portions. Cool in the fridge until ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Specially for a gluten-free diet. This bread is even more delicious than the usual wheat bread. You will need: 2 cups grated mozzarella cheese ¾ cup almond flour 2 tablespoons full-cream cream cheese 1 teaspoon garlic powder 1 tablespoon finely chopped garlic 1 tablespoon freshly chopped parsley 1 teaspoon dried thyme 1 teaspoon baking powder A pinch of salt 1 egg ¼ cup melted butter 1 cup grated cheddar cheese Preheat the oven to 220ºC. Mix the grated mozzarella cheese, almond flour, full-cream cream cheese, garlic powder, thyme, baking powder and salt in a microwave oven safe mixing ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink A winner on weekdays. You will need: 500g lean beef mincemeat 3 finely chopped cloves of garlic 1 tin tomatoes 1 tin mushroom soup 3 tablespoons finely chopped basil 2 bottles traditional spaghetti sauce 2 tablespoons brown onion soup powder 1 cup smooth cottage cheese 2 beaten eggs 1 teaspoon mixed dried herbs 1 teaspoon coriander powder 1 teaspoon cumin powder Salt and pepper to taste 1 up grated cheddar cheese ½ cup grated mozzarella cheese 10 lasagne sheets Fry the mincemeat in a skillet pan with a bit of oil. Add the garlic, coriander and cumin. Continue ... Lees meer.