By Essie Bester All of us would like to see our children develop into individuals with integrity, compassion and character. Experts say the secret is that we should show them that we understand them and really care because in that way they easily learn the lessons of love and character...
By Melodie Veldhuizen Most parents experience anxiety about their children and the Covid-19 pandemic creates even more reasons for anxiety than ever before. Although some anxiety (up to a point) is normal, it is essential that parents do not pass on their anxiety on to their children. What causes anxiety? Personal history of mental health problems Shyness or behavioural inhibitions during childhood years Negative experiences in the past and a fear that something similar might happen again Comparing their own children with other children Comparing the family’s living conditions (for example finances) with those of friends or family Stressful and ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin I am amazed to hear daily of children as young as 12 or 13 who smoke and use drugs, and often with the parents’ knowledge, but at some point a parent will have to face the harsh reality, because it is not going to get better by itself. Dr ST Potgieter, a psychologist in Bellville, says, “There is one thing you as a parent should never do, and that is to ignore the situation for the sake of peace. It is no use hoping that the problem will blow over, because it won’t. The sooner someone is ... Lees meer.
By Anja van den Berg The school year has started at last. However, numerous schools are choosing alternative options to the traditional school week due to the coronavirus pandemic. Many children attend school on a rotational basis, going into class one day, and learning from home the next day. Remote learning is not easy, especially if you are a working parent and don’t have a teaching background. However, with some preparation and a can-do mindset, parents can set up the system for success! Here’s how: Mirror their in-person school routine Teachers recommend that a learner’s day at home mirror their ... Lees meer.
By Wilma Bedford Passwords are nothing new; they date from Antiquity, where forts, castles, doors to private places and borders had to be protected and information could only be passed on or exchanged if a password was given. Probably the most familiar password, Open Sesame, comes from the Tales of a thousand-and-one nights, which gave Ali Baba access to treasures in a cave after he heard one of the thieves using the password to enter the cave. His brother, however, had no luck in getting at the treasure because he forgot the password and confused sesame with grain. Everything that ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin How do you help your child if you are battling to understand ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) yourself? There is so much information available online, but it is not always easy to understand. Inattentiveness, hyperactivity and impulsivity are the key traits of ADHD. It is normal for all children to be inattentive and overactive at times and to act impulsively on the spur of the moment, but in the case of children with ADHD this type of behaviour is more intense and occurs more frequently. To be diagnosed with this disorder a child must have been showing ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen Do you feel inferior when you read about the good qualities of the capable wife whose praise is sung in Proverbs 31:10 to 29? Don’t feel alone – few women, if any, satisfy that description. Your friend may knit or crochet beautifully while another one prepares the tastiest meals for her family. And your mother gets up at first light while you want to pull the sheets over your head in the morning until the sun warms you in your bed. Women are unique, you are unique. Perhaps the time has come for you to stop being ... Lees meer.
By Anja van den Berg The Coronavirus pandemic is causing a peak in workers’ stress levels, with an astonishing number of people describing this time as the most stressful time of their careers. Although some of that stress is due to health and existential concerns, much of it is associated with work, says Jennifer Petriglieri, an associate professor of organisational behaviour and the author of Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work. Additionally, the pressure of juggling work, parenting and household responsibilities adds up to a heavy burden of stress that can easily affect our ... Lees meer.
By Wilma Bedford The Covid-19 lockdown has placed domestic violence and abuse against women in the spotlight; one out of every six women experiences violence. Violence is any abusive conduct that curbs the rights of any citizen to be free and that causes harm with regard to the health and wellbeing of others. Although the focus is on women and children, the elderly and siblings are also regular defenceless victims, but men as victims are a disregarded group. They receive scant support because they are reticent to seek help due to the possible weakling stigma that will cling to them, ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo Violence against women and children occurs in South Africa in shocking numbers. According to President Cyril Ramaphosa, at the moment Covid-19 and violence against women and children are the two pandemics which we are fighting. With the lowering of the lockdown from stage 4 to stage 3, this kind of violence and abuse has increased rapidly, and 21 women and children have been murdered in South Africa during the last few weeks. It is difficult to foresee numbers, as it is not always clear if the crimes were committed against the victims because they are women. However, ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom A worldwide pandemic of a new, unknown virus can cause severe stress and anxiety, which can also be aggravated by regulations introduced in an effort to combat the virus. According to Charnel Hattingh, national marketing and communication manager of the security company Fidelity ADT, they are definitely seeing an increase in stress in households if you look at the comments on WhatsApp and social-media community groups where people are asking for help when they hear screaming or fighting in houses in their street. “There are also angry and threatening messages against neighbours and those who do not ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen Most cat and dog lovers have noted that their animal friends have bad breath. You can do something about it, if you know what the cause is. Some of the causes can be treated and even preventd, while others can only be treated at great cost. Pica. This is an eating disorder where animals, especially dogs, will eat anything they see that is not food, such as faeces, stones, ground, hair, paint and even cloth. This can cause serious health problems, such as intestinal sores, blockage of the intestines or irritation of the digestive tract. You may ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin Summer has arrived, not only for us but also for our pets. Most of us think now is a good time to strip your dog of its abundance of hair, just as you strip your clothes and change into swimwear or shorts. But is it really a good idea to have your wooly bundle’s hair shorn off? Health issues associated with heat are noticeable among brachycephalic (short-nosed) dogs, especially those with long hair. In the South African heat it would really help them to have their hair shorn. Benefits of shaving your dog in summer: • It ... Lees meer.
By Emsie Martin Most of us have already experienced the extremely hot days of this summer season and you might be thinking it’s a good time to strip you dog of his thick ruff, just as we strip of layers of clothes and walk around in swimsuits and shorts. Your pet is also hot, but first ask your vet if it is the right thing to do. Following are some tips from the SPCA on how to protect your pet against the heat this summer: If possible, keep your pets indoors when it gets too hot. If that is not ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom The arrival of a new baby can turn a household on its head and it could also affect the house pets. Once the new baby has come home, it is accompanied by an overwhelming array of new sounds and smells, and this could upset a dog, especially if it is not used to children. A baby also results in drastic changes to the daily routine, which means that your dog’s schedule could possibly also change. A new baby could also result in a dog getting less attention than before for a while. All this can result in ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom Dogs use their bodies and expressions to communicate their feelings. By learning your dog’s body language you will know when it feels sad, happy, threatened or bad-tempered. Dogs use their whole body to show how they feel in a particular situation. They will bark, whine or growl and use facial expressions and their ears, lips, noses, tails and bodies, and it is therefore important to know what the different expressions and habits mean. It is, however, important to take everything together as well as the situation in which the dog finds itself into consideration, otherwise you may ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom Numerous countries have enabled their citizens to once again travel in the midst of the Covid-19 pandemic, but experts agree that the travel experience will for now and long afterwards be very different. South Africans started travelling again for work on 1 June. At this stage travel for relaxation or pleasure remains forbidden. International travel is also not allowed, with South Africa’s borders remaining closed. However, Oz Desai, CEO of Corporate Traveller, warns that the travel experience will for now appear quite different. “Travellers should be aware that the rules and regulations for travel can and will ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen It is not only families’ physical security that is put at risk by dangers such as car hijacks, robbery and burglaries. Because most modern families use technology for playing, recreation and work, everybody’s online security must also be guarded. We share a few security measures. Install reliable antivirus software to protect your computers against viruses, spyware and malware. Secure your wi-fi network so that cyber criminals cannot use your bandwidth or infect your computers with malware or launch malware attacks from your system. Use a strong password for your router, enable cordless encryption to avoid strangers from ... Lees meer.
By Melodie Veldhuizen Many of us have been victims of crime ourselves, or know someone who has. It is a given and unfortunately something to which we cannot turn a blind eye or deaf ear. Everyone is exposed to it daily, which is why it is essential to do everything possible to protect ourselves, our loved ones as well as our possessions, at home and on the road. Safety at home Lock all doors and windows when no-one will be at home, and also when you are at home. Invest in a security system and test it frequently to ensure ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo We will not give our children stones when they ask for bread. Unfortunately there are parents who do exactly that. Child abuse occurs in all communities and children do not always hate the abuser. In most cases the abuser is somebody known to the child or his family. Child abuse is any interaction or absence of interaction that results in non-accidental damage to the child’s physical condition or development. This includes not only physical damage but also emotional and sexual abuse, as well as neglect. Sexual abuse Sexual abuse takes place when somebody forces or solicits a ... Lees meer.
By Wilma Bedford Road accidents in South Africa are of the highest in the world: Worldwide there are 24.1 deaths per 100 000 road users, while in South Africa the figure is 31.9 per 100 000. In South Africa road deaths are caused by drunk driving, speed, distracted drivers, reckless driving, potholes and worn brakes and tyres. Collisions are the main cause of road deaths and the drivers are mainly 15-29 years old. There has been talk about including road safety in the school curriculum, therefore the long road to your holiday at the coast is a golden opportunity to ... Lees meer.
By Anja van den Berg While travelling to new destinations is exciting, regular travel can take its toll on your body – especially if you fly frequently for business. If regular travel is on the cards for you in 2020, here are five tips on how to prioritise your wellness: Monitor your sitting. It goes without saying that when you are strapped into your seat on the plane, you have no choice but to remain seated for safety reasons. However, it's essential to be aware of the adverse effects of all that sitting during multiple voyages. An ever-expanding body of ... Lees meer.
By Nico Strydom For many women travelling during pregnancy can be a concern as it requires extra planning and precautions. Pregnant women who intend travelling should talk to their doctor ahead of time so that they can be advised as to which inoculations are safe and what precautions they should take for their and their babies’ health. Pregnant women are generally advised to not travel too much or unnecessarily. If, however, there are no complications with regard to the pregnancy, travelling is on the whole safe, but it is advisable not to travel after a pregnancy of 35 weeks. The ... Lees meer.
By Marli Naidoo It’s time to open gifts and the kids want to jump out of their skin with excitement, while the parents break out in a cold sweat. How will your child react to his gifts? Hopefully he doesn’t cry when he opens his uncle’s gift. When your three-year-old shows he isn’t happy with his gift, it is normal, and you can’t do much about it. When, however, it is your teenager who sits around with a long face after having torn of the gift wrap, you need urgent intervention. Teach your children from a young age about gratitude ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Smoked ham for a cold-meat Christmas dinner. You will need: 500g smoked ham 240g finely crushed canned pineapple pieces ½ cup barbeque sauce (purchased sauce of your choice) 4 Granny Smith apples, finely sliced ¼ cup full-grain mustard 1 teaspoon paprika ¼ cup honey 1 tablespoon chopped sage A smoked ham is already cooked. Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Place the ham in a narrow oven dish. Cut half centimetre slices approximately 80% through. Place the apple slices and pineapple pieces in each slice of the ham. Mix the mustard, honey, paprika and barbeque sauce. Spread the sauce ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Something completely different for the Christmas season. You will need: 110g butter 110g castor sugar 110g golden syrup 225g self-raising flour 2 teaspoons ginger powder 1 teaspoon sugared orange peel, chopped 1 litre vanilla ice-cream Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Grease an oven pan with butter or Spray and Cook and line with baking paper. Heat the butter in a saucepan on low heat. Add the castor sugar and golden syrup. Remove from the heat as soon as the castor sugar has been worked through thoroughly. Set aside to cool. Add the self-raising flour, sugared orange peel and ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Quick and easy. You will need: 175 ml fresh cream 200g finely chopped white chocolate 100g finely chopped pistachio nuts 2 tablespoons sugar 200g finely chopped milk chocolate 1 teaspoon vanilla essence Frosting: 10 finely chopped pistachios 1 tablespoon coarse salt 1 tablespoon coconut 1 tablespoon finely chopped Crunchie chocolate Heat the sugar in a pan until golden brown. Remove from the heat and add the chopped pistachios. Spread the caramel pistachios on baking paper. Set aside to cool. Break the caramel pistachios into smaller pieces with a rolling pin. Process the pieces in a food processer until ... Lees meer.
By Lea Brink This French toast turns every Saturday morning into a special occasion. You will need: 6 slices white bread 3 eggs ½ cup coconut cream ¼ cup finely chopped pineapple pieces ½ cup almond slivers ½ cup coconut flakes Honey of your choice 1 teaspoon brown sugar Butter for frying the bread Roast the coconut flakes in a frying pan with a teaspoon brown sugar on medium heat. Remove from the heat as soon as the sugar has melted and the coconut starts changing colour. Beat the eggs and coconut cream together in a mixing bowl. Add the ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Comfort food for the cold and wet winter evenings. This dish has now replaced pancakes in my home. You will need: 500g beef mince ½ finely chopped onion 1 cup frozen mealies ½ teaspoon finely chopped red green-pepper 1 teaspoon cumin 1 teaspoon coriander ½ teaspoon paprika 1 cup finely chopped spinach leaves 2 finely chopped carrots 8 tortilla wraps 1 tin whole tomatoes 100 ml sour cream 2 tablespoons brown onion soup 1 tablespoon finely chopped basil Salt and pepper to taste 2 cups grated cheddar cheese 1 cup grated mozzarella cheese Preheat the oven to 180ºC. ... Lees meer.
By Wilma Bedford With the lockdown and other restrictions you might for the first time in a long while have really had the time to pay attention to your garden and to enjoy it, or perhaps you now look at your garden and see the potential for food security, or just a healthier diet, or you want to create a delightful garden just for yourself, even if it is on your balcony. The new normal is to green your environment and to cultivate your own healthy vegetables and herbs. Whatever the case, your garden is a healthy place to be ... Lees meer.
Lea Brink Filling and nutritious food for the winter. You will need: 500g rump steak 2 large brinjals ½ finely chopped onion 1 tin tomatoes, halved 1 packet brown onion soup 1 tablespoon finely chopped sage leaves 1 teaspoon cumin 1 teaspoon coriander 2 finely chopped cloves of garlic Sauce: 4 tablespoons butter 4 tablespoons flour 2½ cups milk Salt and pepper to taste Preheat the oven to 180ºC. Peel and slice the brinjals. Pack on an oven plate and bake for approximately 10 minutes until the slices start colouring at the edges. Dice the rump steak. Fry the diced ... Lees meer.