Do you feel inferior when you read about the good qualities of the capable wife whose praise is sung in Proverbs 31:10 to 29? Don’t feel alone – few women, if any, satisfy that description. Your friend may knit or crochet beautifully while another one prepares the tastiest meals for her family. And your mother gets up at first light while you want to pull the sheets over your head in the morning until the sun warms you in your bed. Women are unique, you are unique. Perhaps the time has come for you to stop being the perfect wife – the Proverbs 31 woman. Rather try just to be a good wife – the best you can be with the gifts and talents, the physical and emotional capabilities and the material aids you have.
What does a good wife look like?
She takes good care of her body, soul and mind.
She likes herself, accepts herself unconditionally, and does not compare herself with other women.
She will never put het husband to shame.
She does not complain, nag and fight about everything. When she differs from her husband, she thinks about whether it is worth its while to fight over the matter.
The house and her husband’s clothes are clean and neat and there is always enough food on the table.
She does not share er husband’s secrets with others.
She is loyal and does not complain about him to her friends.
She encourages him to practise his hobbies.
She listens closely when he talks about things that interest him.
She spends quality time with him, no matter how busy she is.
Tell and show him regularly that you love him.
She supports him at all times, in all spheres of his life, in his career, his hobby, new ideas, or his role as the father of their children.
She is honest and hides no secrets from her husband.
She accepts him as he is, does not criticise him all the time and does not try to change him, but neither does she condone behaviour that harms her or others.
She admits that she has faults and she does not hesitate to admit it when she makes a mistake.
She apologises when she offends him consciously or inadvertently.
Respect your husband, even if you sometimes do not share his opinion.
Appreciate what he does for you.
She does not squander the money he works so hard for.
She forgives and forgets and do not harbour grievances.
She trusts him implicitly.
Live in peace with his family and friends and accept that each of them has a unique and special place in his life.
She communicates with him all the time, not only about everyday matters, but also by sharing her feelings with him and listening attentively to what he has to say.
She works with him to keep the romance in their marriage alive.
She stays faithful to him and never gives him any reason to be jealous or feel that he is not number one in her life.
She focuses on the small things that make her husband happy instead of trying to do everything perfectly.
She is patient and does not always expect him to repair something or do what you want done immediately, except if it is an emergency or could cause one.
She makes him feel that he is her greatest hero. She admires him, pays him compliments and makes him feel good about himself.
She makes him feel that he is indispensable. He wants to know that he is the first person to whom she will turn when she needs help.
She is adaptable. She fully realises that she married a unique person. Focus on your shared characteristic and interests and adapt to the differences, no matter how big they are.